Are You Outsourcing Your Beliefs?

Islam – derived from the Arabic root word ‘Salema’ means: peace, purity, submission and obedience.

I love this pro-peace ad and am sharing it in honour of not just those who are observing the Holy month of Ramadan, but in honour of our entire world. Watch it and look beyond the surface, and you would see that there is no divide between us, this is not just an Islam advert, but an universal message of love, peace, compassion and understanding. It is a beautiful message that our troubled world needs to reflect on right now.

So much of our world live in lazy ignorance, fear of that which is different, and prejudiced judgments formed on the basis of propagated twisted philosophies and hear say. The perfect set-up for governments, extremists and general fear-mongers to control and destroy us.

What if we each decided to take full responsibility for what we choose to believe and propagate? What if we stop outsourcing our belief systems, thinking and mental programming to the media, religious reps, governments, or anyone for that matter; and stop letting someone else’s agenda play out mindlessly through the actions in our own lives, just because we need someone else to blame just in case everything falls apart?

What if we would just be brave and chose to take personal responsibility to actually ALWAYS seek to practice respect, intelligent discernment and compassionate responses towards that we do not yet know and may not (or may never) understand?

Can we not stop the fear mongering machine in a single moment? I believe we can.

So I am sharing this. Because I am on the quest towards promoting ideals, values and ideas that holds us together – and reject everything that strives to divide us or projects us in a manner that is unworthy of who we truly are. We are divinity in a human body. Each and everyone of us.

May we all acknowledge, honour and value the truth and beauty in the beliefs of others that are different from ours.

Blessed Ramadan month to my dear Moslem brethren, may the truth and beauty of your beliefs triumph over the lies that have been plaguing it for so long.

Namaste.

Love Unmasked

Originally written Friday, 10 April 2015

My last post was years ago. Writing is such a temperamental thing for me, like the river on its journey to meet the sea, it flows when the water level is reached. Or sometimes whimsical and fleeting like the wind, bringing pieces of thought, ideas, passions to land on my consciousness and moments later, disappears.

This is one of the pieces inspired by the latter – on the true nature of love.

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Love Unmasked

One can love without ever needing to be loved in return, because just to love, is joy enough.

If you love to be loved in return, while divinely human; is not truly the essence and gift of love. If someone loves you no longer, does that mean you then choose not to love them? So what was it before that you called ‘love’ whilst you experienced their love for you?

Is love, the most transformational emotion in the universe, really so shallow? Truly loving is about appreciation, being present and making that choice to be that from moment to moment, at all possible moments, and it does not demand, does not want, nor does it ever require you to give yourself up.

It’s how you choose to show up in someone else’s life. It’s a gift to you as well as your beloved, and it should never be confined by the ideals of romance alone. It is too vast, too mysterious, too powerful. It lifts everyone when in its presence.

And the most magical thing about it is that you too, can always choose to be love.

For was love not what we were birth from?

And is love not what we are made of?

Death’s Message

Originally written on Friday, 10 April 2015

It’s been awhile I know. 2014’s been a tough year emotionally. And I’m capable fully of being deeply emotional, yet seem perfectly held together. I don’t have any theories why.

In fact it has come to my attention that as I walk through the annals of time from one year to another, I have less desire to speculate or theorise about things whose answers can never be found. Because we truly would never know. And the act of trying to figure things out is but an entertaining diversion for the mind to indulge in its need to feel important. And so I have less patience to indulge my mind anymore.

Especially after my grandmother passed away in May 2014, and my beloved uncle, 8 months later in January 2015. How does one put into words the depth of pain of forever losing someone you love? I tried. I can’t. Words are useless and they do no justice. But my feelings and the thoughts that have arose from that experience for me have given me loudly and clearly, death’s message.

1. We don’t have time
Why do get lulled into the illusion that we do? If we live to 65 years old, we only have 569,400 hours. If you’re past 30, you have less than that left. If that was converted into currency in Malaysia, you can just barely buy a property with that amount of money in KL. And there’s no top up account. It’s a countdown all the way. So why spend those diminishing hours doing what brings you no joy, or with people who make you feel bad about yourself? Don’t. Be selfish. Life is too short. Don’t squander it and regret at the end. My granny probably only forgave all those people she held grudges for in the last week of her life her on earth. It’s painful beyond words to see. Let it go now. Forgive now. Tomorrow may never come. Don’t wait.

2. We are nothing but that which we choose to give
Giving and the ability or capacity to give, is a divine honour. We don’t exist except in the experience of others. And at the end of the road, when you’re stripped naked and need to be bathed by people who love you because you’re bedridden, you’ll get this. All the love that she has given to each of us as she raised us over the decades, we had the honour of returning to her in the last month of her life. The experience of lovingly and gently caring for the caretaker in my life – I profoundly and deeply understood the meaning of love. And for that I will be eternally grateful. She gave love selflessly all her life and that is what she deserves unreservedly at the end. And I will continue her legacy.

3. Be gentle & kind with others, always
We have nothing but our moments, and whilst they are temporal and fleeting, they are the links that connect and form our entire existence from birth to death. Our memories are usually punctuated with the highs and the lows of these moments, whilst everything in between are sometimes overlooked and forgotten. But those are the ones that are critical in forming the experience of our lives. The gentle unassuming moments, flowing along with others and life harmoniously. Drama and pain is great for lessons and new starts, but the moments in between are the ones that set the tone for our existence. Let those be sweet and gentle. Let everyone that crosses your path be brought back to peace and full self acceptance. Let them be reminded of the love and beauty that they are in the midst of a crazy hectic world. And let them be inspired to also, be gentle with others.

4. If you love someone, let them know now
If I could have a drink again with my granny and uncle again or the chance to take them out to places that they would enjoy, I would pay anything to do so. Just so that they know, that they are important to me, that I love them, that I would want to kiss them all over their faces again and again, and that they each know that they are deeply loved and appreciated. Do it now, tomorrow may never come.

I have more to share, but will continue in another post. Till then, be alive – it’s a privilege, not an entitlement.

Gratitude

Clearing out some old files and I came across a folder containing some old articles I wrote and was published in magazines before. So I started reading them. And if I have to say so, I was impressed with my own writing. Flipped to the cover to check the year, and it was over a decade ago. I don’t even remember that girl – who I was, where I got the inspiration, and what I thought about what I wrote.

At 23, I was granted a 4-page center-spread in a high circulation magazine – writing about the atrocities of war as an impact on children. It was pretty good writing too, this piece skewed towards a more reporting kinda style.

The strangest thing was, I don’t remember writing it and reading it made me felt like it was the first time I read this. What was I thinking back then?

Money. I was thinking about making the couple of hundred bucks that article was gonna give me – to pay for bills, and to survive. If you’ve read my earlier blogs you would know a bit of my story – have been out in the world almost all on my own since 18. So I traded every legitimate, saleable skill I have, as morally as I can, to make that extra dough.

And in the process, I think I must have sold myself pretty short. I could have charged more, be more focused, bring it to a higher level – make a name for myself, as a writer, or performer, or speaker, or something. But because it was not hard for me to do quite a lot, it was hard for me to value what I have been blessed with.

Who else do you know that is like this? Talented in so many ways, with so many options to take so many roads – short of just giving it some true focus and honing a skill, but never really amounted to anything because of what I recognize now as a lack of gratitude.

No I’m not trying to be harsh. It’s true. Think about it. We have so much self-sabotage issues that we forget to be grateful for what we already have. In so many ways we are ungrateful for what we’ve been given. Here are some examples:

1. Body: If you smoke, drink alcohol, take drugs, don’t exercise, eat unhealthily, etc etc – it’s truly just external manifestations for a lack of gratitude for your body. (I’m not dissing you – I’m an ex-alcoholic & chain smoker, so I get the badge to say this.)

2. Talents: If you are shy or bashful in the expressing of your talents, and keep it to yourself because of a fear of being judged – that’s a manifestation of ingratitude to your Creator; because you were created magnificent and your responsibility is to give that to the world.

3. Relationships: if you remain in an abusive relationship or are abusing others verbally, emotionally, physically – that’s ingratitude for the life force within you and those you’re in relationship with.

I can go on, but I guess you get my point. For me before, it would be an ingratitude of my own worth – I never really stopped, appreciated & honed the skills I have been bestowed with. Because I was so busy trying to make a living. Now I know better but it did take many years. But I’m grateful for being here now. In this very moment, writing this very word.

So I take the time now to do a “Namaste” moment on myself everyday. Honoring the divine within me and everything I encounter. Taking myself and people seriously. Living life on purpose. Making clearer choices. Not just drifting along unconscious. Making “contribution” a standard for how successful my day was. Mastering myself in moments of emotional turmoil. Recognizing and giving thanks for the gifts I see in me and in others. Taking care of my body and the food I consume.

How do you practice gratitude? Do share your comments below, would love to hear your story too.

XOXO

J

Happy Birthday Daddy

 

I remember when I was 1
You were like my sun
Framing up my babyish scrawls
Proudly displaying them on your walls

I remember when I was 4
You said I should never feel small
I could be anything I want
A ballerina, an athlete, a star

And then I was 13
You vetted every boyfriend-to-be
And tried to teach me about sex
With great books that made simple the complex

It was tough being 18
You were afraid to set me free
To a world that was rough and mean
I rebelled to see what I could be

And while I struggled through my 20’s
Lost and confused by myself
I know now you struggled with your worries
Praying that I’d be safe somehow

Today I am in my 30’s
And I’d finally come to see
That you have always been my guiding star
And only because of your love & faith – could I have come this far.

Happy Birthday Dad,
You’re 61 today
For 35 years you’ve been my hero
And it’ll always be that way.

I love you Daddy. XOXO

Risky Is The New Safe ~ Poetic Rock Opera!

So I just finished Randy Gage’s latest book “Risky Is The New Safe”, if you can call it a book. It felt more like a composition of an artist – a compilation of inspirations brought forth by the melding and fluctuations of the rhythms, pitches and harmonies making up the world as we live it today. Experienced through his being. Flowed out through his fingers. Uncensored. Raw. And disturbing.

Dramatic? I may be. But this piece of work, I didn’t read it – I flowed with it.

It took me longer than usual to finish it. I read fast usually. But this was something I had to savor – it was like a trail of surprisingly delightful ideas, thoughts and gems, sprinkled through the pages; some funny, some from out of space, some grounded, but all – thought-provoking. So Gage, don’t ask me again why I took so long to finish your masterpiece. I eat my chocolates the same way.

Now, if there is anything at all that I learned about Randy Gage in my few short years of having the honor of calling him my mentor, beloved friend and favoritest rocksta in the world; is that there is nothing very normal about him. And now I am convinced that all along, he is actually a psychic Jedi from another galaxy posing as a bald multimillionaire (and with this book, I can wager a prediction myself – soon-to-be billionaire).

So….after finishing this piece, I’m really not sure how to categorize this book. And I’m really not sure I should try. Like its author, it’s not really categorizable (yes, I made that word up like I did the one above too. Chillax.) You see, it’s not really about business, yet it is. It’s not really about magic, yet it is. It’s not really about leadership, yet it is. It’s not really about how to’s, yet it is. It’s beyond conventional labels as we know it.

If I had to find a way to label it, I’d call it a manifesto – an exciting, thought-provoking compilation of warnings, predictions, and wisdom. A call for us to awaken to the reality of a brave new world that is already upon us, urging us to embrace it so that we may prosper. Spirituality, science fiction, economics, philosophy and more – all made relevant to help you claim your divine potential to create unlimited wealth in a world on a speeding roller-coaster of inevitable change.

It’s a book about exciting possibilities – YOUR exciting possibilities.

All I know is that something like this needed to be captured on paper; and only a soul as open, objective,  and authentic as Randy Gage could have written it the way it needed to be written.

So, to heed it or otherwise, that will remain your prerogative.

But read it you must. Who knows what it will bring forth from you?

So click on this link, scroll to the bottom & pre-order your copy of “Risky Is The New Safe” now:
http://www.randygage.com/riskyisthenewsafe/

Lastly, thanks rocksta – this piece is truly a poetic rock opera. I don’t know how else to describe it!

XOXO

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Be The Phoenix

I was at a fabulous workshop last night by Milestone Trainings – one that deals with relationships and our roles in creating the results we create whilst in one. This event was particularly focused on romantic relationships, but the message is universal for all relationships we enter into.

Who is running your life & relationships? Your beliefs or you?

Then people would ask, aren’t my beliefs mine? Don’t they therefore, belong to me and thus, it’s all me?

Yes they are all yours, but they are not you.

You are not so limited, that you’re only your beliefs. Because if that was true, life would be dull and there would be no possibility of miracles happening. In the awareness of whether you are your beliefs and whether those beliefs are serving you – therein lies new possibility, new choices, new beliefs, new results. Therein lies hope, beauty, & magnificence.

At the end of the entire session someone asked me – if someone’s life was already working, why would they need to work on themselves anymore?

Here’s the truth about nature – if you’re not growing, you’re dying. Nature never remains constant, nor still. It is always in a flux of change: birth, transformation, growth, death, repeat. And human beings are a part of nature, so we are the same – physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually – if we’re not constantly striving to grow, we are literally dying on all levels.

Like the mythic Phoenix, we die and become reborn again from our own ashes; more magnificent than before. There is NO END. Unless we so choose to spend all our energy holding ourselves still in a fluxing universe. Remaining “safe”. Remaining mediocre. Breathing, but never fully alive. Existing, but never fully present.

Why would anyone want to live that way?

Well, I get it – because it is scary to be vulnerable. But all great men & women in the history of humankind have to endure the trials of personal transformation.

Think of Gandhi – his story is inspiring because he was a shy, stuttering, unsure young man with no purpose in life, who then became the Mahatma that had more influence and true personal power than any living person in his time. He was the Phoenix that chose to die, be reborn, grow, transform & die again – many times over in his lifetime.

Think of Nelson Mandela – his story inspires because he was a rowdy, aggressive, stubborn activist that was jailed and released, jailed and released many a time; before he became the man who united a hatred-filled racist country under one flag, one heart. He too, chose to be the Phoenix.

There are so many more great beacons of inspiration from the history of mankind – and there is one constant you will notice if you should choose to study all their life stories. NONE became who they became without enduring the trials and tribulations of their personal fires, to confront their self-limiting beliefs, to keep or discard, to form new ones, and to constantly be on that path – because they understand, that they are UNLIMITED in their capacity for growth and personal transformation.

So, no matter what people say to you while you are on this path – do not let it deter you from achieving your fullest life purpose. And there’s only one way towards achieving that – you must be willing to be the Phoenix, and accept with gratitude, that the process never ends. For that, is the true gift of being alive.

XOXO
Jamie

PS: We all need guidance, so learn and hang with those on the path. Check out the blog of a true Phoenix-Jedi Master Randy Gage. And if you’re in Malaysia, enroll in this amazing, life-changing program called Advanced Living Series. But only if you choose to be the Phoenix. xoxo

Supernova Baby

I think
I loved you
From the moment
I saw your face
Your eyes
were twinkling
Fired
by the wideness of your smile
Aglow
under the kiss of the full moon
I can’t remember
The last time I fell
In love this way
But as all stars
are destined
To burn out eventually
So too
did your fascination with me
And I realized
That I was just
Your supernova baby.

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Something I wrote some time back.

Wellness Is A Lifestyle, Baby!

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Just a note for ya before I call it a night.

If you’re following me on twitter, or friends with me on facebook; you’d probably notice that I’m quite a wellness freak. I am vegetarian, prefer macrobiotic, organic food; workout daily; don’t do junk food, alcohol or take any addictive substances; and am all-around a pain in the ass to be around if you’re not into wellness.

Seriously – just ask any of my friends. 😉

But it wasn’t always that way. If you read my older post on smoking and maybe someday I’ll do one about being an alcoholic, then you’d know that I spent the 2nd decade of my life totally living to die.

Now, I’m 2, almost 3 years into my 3rd decade on this planet and the truth is, I feel better, hotter and more together now on so many levels than I ever did before. I am able to wear the same clothes I wore when I was 18-21 years old. And let me tell you – that is a helluva rush!

So what’s my point?

Well, the process of my transformation towards “living-to-live” vs “living-to-die” started about 5 years ago from today – and it was a PROCESS, meaning it happened gradually – by regularly taking high-quality nutritional supplementation, going semi-vegetarian, getting more spiritual, meditating, engaging in more personal development, exercising more, quitting smoking, drinking, AND destructive relationships; stopping junk TV and negative media; staying away from life-consuming computer games; etc.

And people will always invariably ask me, “how long do I need to (exercise, diet, supplement, read, etc) for?”

Well hon, the simple answer is: Forever baby, FOREVER.

Because wellness is a lifestyle, not a program.

That’s what I learned in my own process on this path – and it may seem daunting if you’re in the worst shape or place in your life right now, but once you get on this path; it’s one of the most rewarding ever.

The point is to just want to live more than you want to die. And when you want that, it will show in everything you do – your actions are just a manifestation of your thoughts.

And there’s no way I could have done it all alone, or continue doing it alone right now! Here’s some of the people, sites, and foods that I seriously recommend if you wanna get started on becoming a better you – and you’ll see, it covers more than just your body:

1. It all starts in your mind – Randy Gage
For total mental reprogramming, I recommend my beloved mentor and friend. They don’t call him the modern-day Napoleon Hill for no reason. Amongst a host of other achievements too lengthy to list here, he is the preeminent expert on the manifestation of prosperity & abundance, and most importantly – he walks his talk. He IS abundance and prosperity. Just check him out for a couple of months, and you won’t have to believe me – you’ll come to that conclusion yourself. Go subscribe to all these links now if you are serious about really living well in all spheres of your life:
– Randy Gage’s Abundance & Prosperity Blog
– Randy Gage’s Prosperity TV

2. Spiritually-inclined – Abraham-Hicks
Just check them out, I have no idea how to explain them better than they already do.

3. For quitting smoking – WhyQuit.com
Got my quit guide scouring this website & I am so grateful to them! Please pass this on to all your smoker friends.

4. For a rocking body – BodyRock.tv
Found this site a couple of days ago and I’m telling you, I’m hooked! No more excuses if you have no gym or time – the workouts are as short as 6 minutes and none of them require a gym! Amazing stuff! Find something for yourself here and GET STARTED! If the chick’s bod don’t inspire you – I don’t know what will! 🙂
– BodyRock.tv Blog Site
– BodyRock.tv YouTube Channel

5. For a personal trainer:
Met this guy only a couple of times, but I learned so much just those times from him and have used his advice on myself so often, I feel absolutely obliged to list him here. Cool dude & he knows his stuff. So if you’re looking for a personal trainer in Klang Valley, Malaysia – check him out: Wong Yu Jin (special thanks to Lai May Leng for introducing!)

6. For the world’s ONLY gel suspension nutrition – Agel
These are my products, and because of this company and their amazing products – I got started towards the path of total wellness 5 years ago. I use almost all their nutritional supplements; all day long. There is no beating the convenience of gel packs and its amazing bio-availability. This is no commercial plug – these stuff WORKS, I know – because I use them and I look younger now than I did 3 years ago, and I dropped 11kgs in 10 weeks on the weight program. So if you want high-quality nutrition that actually works and tastes great – without choking down pills, blending powders or lugging heavy juice bottles around; check this out and let me know when you wanna get some!

7. For some amazing vegan food that is orgasmically delicious – Woods Macrobiotic
So you think that good, whole, healthy food can’t taste delish? Well, you have no idea what you’re missing. I don’t know where else you can find this restaurant chain – but just google macrobiotic, organic, restaurants for your area and you’ll hopefully find some. Amazing food. Totally. Out. Of. This. World. Better than whatever junk food you might usually crave for. I promise.

I have more but this post is getting too long. Other things to add into your life for wellness – massages, reflexology, great sex, family time, awesome friends, beautiful music, amazing art, lots of laughter, moonlight swims, inspiring books, and tear-jerking movies. Oh. And shopping. Lots of it. 😉

So, here’s to your journey towards total wellness. There’s only one way to do it – just start & take it one step at a time. It gets easy and soon, you wouldn’t wanna live any other way. 😉

Let me know some of your recommendations too so I can check them out!

MUAH! XOXOXOXO!!!