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It’s In The Timing

In the last couple of weeks, I found myself finally reaching the point where I was ready to define my purpose and commit to the career path I have been flirting with for the last 20 years.

I have been in the marketing communications, sales and networking realm – working as an employee from the levels of a junior ‘kuli’ (read: slave labor in Malay) executive, all the way up to top management in corporate organisations; as a network marketing professional, battling with low self-esteem and perceived stigma from the people I tried to prospect in the first few painful years breaking into the business, to speaking on stages around the world training other networkers and leading a team of over 4,000 people – giving me a taste of what passive income feels like; and as an entrepreneur, struggling with cashflow problems and ill-equipped with no business experience nor skills to navigate a very tumultuous and expensive learning curve.

And now, almost 20 years later, I am here – finally ready to commit. To my path as a marketing entrepreneur.

And I found myself wondering why – why did I walk this path? Why have I not allowed myself to commit? And why am I ready to commit to this now?

And the answer is – Timing.

Whether it is baking a cake, waiting for the flower to bloom or the final manifestation of any project – I learnt that there is a timing for everything. And in the last couple of years, I have learnt the art of surrender to this natural flow of timing whilst I work on myself and projects on hand to the best of my ability.

I also learnt to let my heart lead me towards the work I choose to do or otherwise, and that at most times, ‘being logical’ is pretty useless in getting you to places you need to be to get to where you are meant to go. Simply because logic is a summarised theory of the past, it’s nothing new, always old. So unless I wanted to return to where I came from, it didn’t make any sense to count on my own logic.

In the years getting to this point, I developed 3 personal criteria to help me decide whether I actually take up what is offered to me or continue doing what I was doing: (1) I must respect (not like) the people I work with, (2) I must love and believe in the work I do, and (3) I must only do it only because I want to.

Doing my best is important to my happiness, and not abiding by the 3 criteria I set for myself above, I couldn’t possibly do my best. Also, I allowed myself the freedom to make mistakes, and change my mind.

This has kept me happy, and sane(r than usual). I have walked away from lots of money, unsuitable business partners, non-committal relationship partners (broke my heart every time), logical advice from well-meaning friends, toxic and energy-sucking relationships, and the security of cushy corporate positions that demanded my soul, integrity and happiness. And I would do it all over again in a heartbeat.

It helped too that I built my work schedule around my annual personal holiday schedule and not the other way around. Not usual, I know – but after over a decade in my 20s of putting others first and nearly killing myself in the process, this actually made a lot more sense, and it works to keep me in a good place to continuously give my best.

So back to my ‘timing’ right now. I woke up a few weeks ago and found that right now, I am ready for unabashed success and achievement. Right now, I am ready to give all that I am to get that which I set my sights on. Right now, I am ready to discard all that is half-assed and mediocre to risk having only that which is excellent in everything within my space. Right now, I am only content with the best. In all areas of my life. And boy, it was an exhilarating eureka moment!

Because truly – this wasn’t how it all started out for me. 20 years ago, I had no clue what I was doing nor why. I have done good, but never have I ever felt this level of sureness about what I need to do and how I will choose to do it.

You see, I didn’t choose this industry nor profession because it was never my first choice for how I would want to live my life. I was a dancer, I danced 14 years of my life from 4 years old till 18. Having performed most of my youth, s0 much so I never watched any TV in the 80’s. So when it wasn’t an option for me to continue in the performance arts when I graduated from high school, I was in a flux.

Advertising, communications, marketing, sales – these were all just a means to an end, I never thought of it as a career or life path, and I was searching for was an end for me that can translate into freedom, money and the option to do whatever I want, whenever I want, with whomever I want, and wherever I want. I spent my entire 20s and 30s going after that which would give me freedom, something I valued more than anything else in the world.

And finally it led me here. On the brink of my 40s, in exhilaration, I finally KNOW that I am free. It’s no longer an ideal nor a distant goal, it is who I am and what I already possess. I have chosen all my decisions consciously for the last couple of years. I live my life for myself. I need no one to accompany me on the road towards achieving what I choose, and I know by pure choice I can and will create exactly what I desire in my life. I have amazing people in my life that stay with me by choice. I respect the people I work with. I do work that I love and gives my day meaning. I love many and am loved in return. I am happy.

And because I have no need nor pressure to commit to anything that I don’t want, I am ready to commit to create something spectacular because spectacular doesn’t come without commitment, half-assed won’t do. Everything up till now have been good, great even – but right now, I want spectacular. To give back spectacularly to the world, to create spectacularly in honour of our aliveness, to contribute spectacular work for my clients. Anything less will not do.

And whilst I have locked in all my websites, blog sites, and social media pages under my name a decade ago (smart move I know, thanks) – I didn’t know what to really do with them until now. I have pretty much just left them sitting around, communicating nothing very much.

Checking in to WordPress earlier today – it announced brightly on my dashboard that my last post was 4 years ago. That’s perfect. Because that’s a perfect reflection of my truth – I wasn’t ready, the timing wasn’t right, but now I am and so I’m back – ready to do spectacular work as a marketing entrepreneur on a global scale, collaborating with other amazing people and utilising everything I have ever learnt in my rather winding and tumultuous journey here.

I am so #grateful to be here!

Hence, this inaugural post since my hiatus is but an expression of my clarity right now, and to commemorate this divine #timing from which I would hold myself to start creating #truly #spectacular results for the world around me. I thank you for reading till the end and sharing my declaration. Please hold me to it so that my journey here on earth will be one that is worthwhile to our future.

Finally, if you are keen to #collaborate or #connect – I would love to do so to see how we can do more together. Hook me up here or on any of my social media platforms. I would love to hear your own personal timing stories on any topic too.

Thanks and I’ll be back soon!

Gratitude

Clearing out some old files and I came across a folder containing some old articles I wrote and was published in magazines before. So I started reading them. And if I have to say so, I was impressed with my own writing. Flipped to the cover to check the year, and it was over a decade ago. I don’t even remember that girl – who I was, where I got the inspiration, and what I thought about what I wrote.

At 23, I was granted a 4-page center-spread in a high circulation magazine – writing about the atrocities of war as an impact on children. It was pretty good writing too, this piece skewed towards a more reporting kinda style.

The strangest thing was, I don’t remember writing it and reading it made me felt like it was the first time I read this. What was I thinking back then?

Money. I was thinking about making the couple of hundred bucks that article was gonna give me – to pay for bills, and to survive. If you’ve read my earlier blogs you would know a bit of my story – have been out in the world almost all on my own since 18. So I traded every legitimate, saleable skill I have, as morally as I can, to make that extra dough.

And in the process, I think I must have sold myself pretty short. I could have charged more, be more focused, bring it to a higher level – make a name for myself, as a writer, or performer, or speaker, or something. But because it was not hard for me to do quite a lot, it was hard for me to value what I have been blessed with.

Who else do you know that is like this? Talented in so many ways, with so many options to take so many roads – short of just giving it some true focus and honing a skill, but never really amounted to anything because of what I recognize now as a lack of gratitude.

No I’m not trying to be harsh. It’s true. Think about it. We have so much self-sabotage issues that we forget to be grateful for what we already have. In so many ways we are ungrateful for what we’ve been given. Here are some examples:

1. Body: If you smoke, drink alcohol, take drugs, don’t exercise, eat unhealthily, etc etc – it’s truly just external manifestations for a lack of gratitude for your body. (I’m not dissing you – I’m an ex-alcoholic & chain smoker, so I get the badge to say this.)

2. Talents: If you are shy or bashful in the expressing of your talents, and keep it to yourself because of a fear of being judged – that’s a manifestation of ingratitude to your Creator; because you were created magnificent and your responsibility is to give that to the world.

3. Relationships: if you remain in an abusive relationship or are abusing others verbally, emotionally, physically – that’s ingratitude for the life force within you and those you’re in relationship with.

I can go on, but I guess you get my point. For me before, it would be an ingratitude of my own worth – I never really stopped, appreciated & honed the skills I have been bestowed with. Because I was so busy trying to make a living. Now I know better but it did take many years. But I’m grateful for being here now. In this very moment, writing this very word.

So I take the time now to do a “Namaste” moment on myself everyday. Honoring the divine within me and everything I encounter. Taking myself and people seriously. Living life on purpose. Making clearer choices. Not just drifting along unconscious. Making “contribution” a standard for how successful my day was. Mastering myself in moments of emotional turmoil. Recognizing and giving thanks for the gifts I see in me and in others. Taking care of my body and the food I consume.

How do you practice gratitude? Do share your comments below, would love to hear your story too.

XOXO

J

Happy Birthday Daddy

 

I remember when I was 1
You were like my sun
Framing up my babyish scrawls
Proudly displaying them on your walls

I remember when I was 4
You said I should never feel small
I could be anything I want
A ballerina, an athlete, a star

And then I was 13
You vetted every boyfriend-to-be
And tried to teach me about sex
With great books that made simple the complex

It was tough being 18
You were afraid to set me free
To a world that was rough and mean
I rebelled to see what I could be

And while I struggled through my 20’s
Lost and confused by myself
I know now you struggled with your worries
Praying that I’d be safe somehow

Today I am in my 30’s
And I’d finally come to see
That you have always been my guiding star
And only because of your love & faith – could I have come this far.

Happy Birthday Dad,
You’re 61 today
For 35 years you’ve been my hero
And it’ll always be that way.

I love you Daddy. XOXO

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Risky Is The New Safe ~ Poetic Rock Opera!

So I just finished Randy Gage’s latest book “Risky Is The New Safe”, if you can call it a book. It felt more like a composition of an artist – a compilation of inspirations brought forth by the melding and fluctuations of the rhythms, pitches and harmonies making up the world as we live it today. Experienced through his being. Flowed out through his fingers. Uncensored. Raw. And disturbing.

Dramatic? I may be. But this piece of work, I didn’t read it – I flowed with it.

It took me longer than usual to finish it. I read fast usually. But this was something I had to savor – it was like a trail of surprisingly delightful ideas, thoughts and gems, sprinkled through the pages; some funny, some from out of space, some grounded, but all – thought-provoking. So Gage, don’t ask me again why I took so long to finish your masterpiece. I eat my chocolates the same way.

Now, if there is anything at all that I learned about Randy Gage in my few short years of having the honor of calling him my mentor, beloved friend and favoritest rocksta in the world; is that there is nothing very normal about him. And now I am convinced that all along, he is actually a psychic Jedi from another galaxy posing as a bald multimillionaire (and with this book, I can wager a prediction myself – soon-to-be billionaire).

So….after finishing this piece, I’m really not sure how to categorize this book. And I’m really not sure I should try. Like its author, it’s not really categorizable (yes, I made that word up like I did the one above too. Chillax.) You see, it’s not really about business, yet it is. It’s not really about magic, yet it is. It’s not really about leadership, yet it is. It’s not really about how to’s, yet it is. It’s beyond conventional labels as we know it.

If I had to find a way to label it, I’d call it a manifesto – an exciting, thought-provoking compilation of warnings, predictions, and wisdom. A call for us to awaken to the reality of a brave new world that is already upon us, urging us to embrace it so that we may prosper. Spirituality, science fiction, economics, philosophy and more – all made relevant to help you claim your divine potential to create unlimited wealth in a world on a speeding roller-coaster of inevitable change.

It’s a book about exciting possibilities – YOUR exciting possibilities.

All I know is that something like this needed to be captured on paper; and only a soul as open, objective,  and authentic as Randy Gage could have written it the way it needed to be written.

So, to heed it or otherwise, that will remain your prerogative.

But read it you must. Who knows what it will bring forth from you?

So click on this link, scroll to the bottom & pre-order your copy of “Risky Is The New Safe” now:
http://www.randygage.com/riskyisthenewsafe/

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Lastly, thanks rocksta – this piece is truly a poetic rock opera. I don’t know how else to describe it!

XOXO

Randy Gage’s First Ever Prosperity Power Program in Singapore!

Hey folks,

If you’re in Asia Pacific – check this out and go get your tickets here NOW:

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Seats are limited, and it WILL run out! This man is phenomenal & this would be one amazing event!

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Be The Phoenix

I was at a fabulous workshop last night by Milestone Trainings – one that deals with relationships and our roles in creating the results we create whilst in one. This event was particularly focused on romantic relationships, but the message is universal for all relationships we enter into.

Who is running your life & relationships? Your beliefs or you?

Then people would ask, aren’t my beliefs mine? Don’t they therefore, belong to me and thus, it’s all me?

Yes they are all yours, but they are not you.

You are not so limited, that you’re only your beliefs. Because if that was true, life would be dull and there would be no possibility of miracles happening. In the awareness of whether you are your beliefs and whether those beliefs are serving you – therein lies new possibility, new choices, new beliefs, new results. Therein lies hope, beauty, & magnificence.

At the end of the entire session someone asked me – if someone’s life was already working, why would they need to work on themselves anymore?

Here’s the truth about nature – if you’re not growing, you’re dying. Nature never remains constant, nor still. It is always in a flux of change: birth, transformation, growth, death, repeat. And human beings are a part of nature, so we are the same – physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually – if we’re not constantly striving to grow, we are literally dying on all levels.

Like the mythic Phoenix, we die and become reborn again from our own ashes; more magnificent than before. There is NO END. Unless we so choose to spend all our energy holding ourselves still in a fluxing universe. Remaining “safe”. Remaining mediocre. Breathing, but never fully alive. Existing, but never fully present.

Why would anyone want to live that way?

Well, I get it – because it is scary to be vulnerable. But all great men & women in the history of humankind have to endure the trials of personal transformation.

Think of Gandhi – his story is inspiring because he was a shy, stuttering, unsure young man with no purpose in life, who then became the Mahatma that had more influence and true personal power than any living person in his time. He was the Phoenix that chose to die, be reborn, grow, transform & die again – many times over in his lifetime.

Think of Nelson Mandela – his story inspires because he was a rowdy, aggressive, stubborn activist that was jailed and released, jailed and released many a time; before he became the man who united a hatred-filled racist country under one flag, one heart. He too, chose to be the Phoenix.

There are so many more great beacons of inspiration from the history of mankind – and there is one constant you will notice if you should choose to study all their life stories. NONE became who they became without enduring the trials and tribulations of their personal fires, to confront their self-limiting beliefs, to keep or discard, to form new ones, and to constantly be on that path – because they understand, that they are UNLIMITED in their capacity for growth and personal transformation.

So, no matter what people say to you while you are on this path – do not let it deter you from achieving your fullest life purpose. And there’s only one way towards achieving that – you must be willing to be the Phoenix, and accept with gratitude, that the process never ends. For that, is the true gift of being alive.

XOXO
Jamie

PS: We all need guidance, so learn and hang with those on the path. Check out the blog of a true Phoenix-Jedi Master Randy Gage. And if you’re in Malaysia, enroll in this amazing, life-changing program called Advanced Living Series. But only if you choose to be the Phoenix. xoxo

Supernova Baby

I think
I loved you
From the moment
I saw your face
Your eyes
were twinkling
Fired
by the wideness of your smile
Aglow
under the kiss of the full moon
I can’t remember
The last time I fell
In love this way
But as all stars
are destined
To burn out eventually
So too
did your fascination with me
And I realized
That I was just
Your supernova baby.

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Something I wrote some time back to cope with a heartbreak. Thought I’d share it now that my heart is healed.🙂

Muah.

Wellness Is A Lifestyle, Baby!

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Just a note for ya before I call it a night.

If you’re following me on twitter, or friends with me on facebook; you’d probably notice that I’m quite a wellness freak. I am vegetarian, prefer macrobiotic, organic food; workout daily; don’t do junk food, alcohol or take any addictive substances; and am all-around a pain in the ass to be around if you’re not into wellness.

Seriously – just ask any of my friends.😉

But it wasn’t always that way. If you read my older post on smoking and maybe someday I’ll do one about being an alcoholic, then you’d know that I spent the 2nd decade of my life totally living to die.

Now, I’m 2, almost 3 years into my 3rd decade on this planet and the truth is, I feel better, hotter and more together now on so many levels than I ever did before. I am able to wear the same clothes I wore when I was 18-21 years old. And let me tell you – that is a helluva rush!

So what’s my point?

Well, the process of my transformation towards “living-to-live” vs “living-to-die” started about 5 years ago from today – and it was a PROCESS, meaning it happened gradually – by regularly taking high-quality nutritional supplementation, going semi-vegetarian, getting more spiritual, meditating, engaging in more personal development, exercising more, quitting smoking, drinking, AND destructive relationships; stopping junk TV and negative media; staying away from life-consuming computer games; etc.

And people will always invariably ask me, “how long do I need to (exercise, diet, supplement, read, etc) for?”

Well hon, the simple answer is: Forever baby, FOREVER.

Because wellness is a lifestyle, not a program.

That’s what I learned in my own process on this path – and it may seem daunting if you’re in the worst shape or place in your life right now, but once you get on this path; it’s one of the most rewarding ever.

The point is to just want to live more than you want to die. And when you want that, it will show in everything you do – your actions are just a manifestation of your thoughts.

And there’s no way I could have done it all alone, or continue doing it alone right now! Here’s some of the people, sites, and foods that I seriously recommend if you wanna get started on becoming a better you – and you’ll see, it covers more than just your body:

1. It all starts in your mind – Randy Gage
For total mental reprogramming, I recommend my beloved mentor and friend. They don’t call him the modern-day Napoleon Hill for no reason. Amongst a host of other achievements too lengthy to list here, he is the preeminent expert on the manifestation of prosperity & abundance, and most importantly – he walks his talk. He IS abundance and prosperity. Just check him out for a couple of months, and you won’t have to believe me – you’ll come to that conclusion yourself. Go subscribe to all these links now if you are serious about really living well in all spheres of your life:
Randy Gage’s Abundance & Prosperity Blog
Randy Gage’s Prosperity TV

2. Spiritually-inclinedAbraham-Hicks
Just check them out, I have no idea how to explain them better than they already do.

3. For quitting smoking – WhyQuit.com
Got my quit guide scouring this website & I am so grateful to them! Please pass this on to all your smoker friends.

4. For a rocking bodyBodyRock.tv
Found this site a couple of days ago and I’m telling you, I’m hooked! No more excuses if you have no gym or time – the workouts are as short as 6 minutes and none of them require a gym! Amazing stuff! Find something for yourself here and GET STARTED! If the chick’s bod don’t inspire you – I don’t know what will!🙂
BodyRock.tv Blog Site
BodyRock.tv YouTube Channel

5. For a personal trainer:
Met this guy only a couple of times, but I learned so much just those times from him and have used his advice on myself so often, I feel absolutely obliged to list him here. Cool dude & he knows his stuff. So if you’re looking for a personal trainer in Klang Valley, Malaysia – check him out: Wong Yu Jin (special thanks to Lai May Leng for introducing!)

6. For the world’s ONLY gel suspension nutrition – Agel
These are my products, and because of this company and their amazing products – I got started towards the path of total wellness 5 years ago. I use almost all their nutritional supplements; all day long. There is no beating the convenience of gel packs and its amazing bio-availability. This is no commercial plug – these stuff WORKS, I know – because I use them and I look younger now than I did 3 years ago, and I dropped 11kgs in 10 weeks on the weight program. So if you want high-quality nutrition that actually works and tastes great – without choking down pills, blending powders or lugging heavy juice bottles around; check this out and let me know when you wanna get some!

7. For some amazing vegan food that is orgasmically delicious – Woods Macrobiotic
So you think that good, whole, healthy food can’t taste delish? Well, you have no idea what you’re missing. I don’t know where else you can find this restaurant chain – but just google macrobiotic, organic, restaurants for your area and you’ll hopefully find some. Amazing food. Totally. Out. Of. This. World. Better than whatever junk food you might usually crave for. I promise.

I have more but this post is getting too long. Other things to add into your life for wellness – massages, reflexology, great sex, family time, awesome friends, beautiful music, amazing art, lots of laughter, moonlight swims, inspiring books, and tear-jerking movies. Oh. And shopping. Lots of it.😉

So, here’s to your journey towards total wellness. There’s only one way to do it – just start & take it one step at a time. It gets easy and soon, you wouldn’t wanna live any other way.😉

Let me know some of your recommendations too so I can check them out!

MUAH! XOXOXOXO!!!

Sandcastles by the Sea

Don’t build sandcastles by the sea –
if you want it to last,
but if you must;
don’t use sand.

You can’t control the sea nor its currents,
and raging at it will make no difference,
but you can control how you build the castle;
and that,
can change everything.

~ Jamie Loh 11 December 2011

When I Was Ugly

I remember when I was 13 and utterly self-conscious of my body. I was a skinny, gangly kid with long hair, worn way past my waist – with sticks for legs, and my frame was totally boyish. I was a late bloomer.

The idea of wearing a bikini was beyond me. I was so painfully shy, I couldn’t imagine revealing so much of my body that way. I thought I looked terrible and everyone would be laughing.

I also hated taking pictures, and being captured on video killed me. I would never look at them again, and every time I did I was so critical of how I looked that I always looked horrible to myself. I was too skinny, my hair was too messy, my teeth was crooked, my lips too big – it was never ending.

Maybe it is that way when people go through their teenage years, but I took that feeling of self-criticism all the way to my mid-twenties. I never thought I was good enough and of course, everything that I saw about myself, affirmed the exact way I felt about me.

By the time I was in my twenties, I was too fat, my face too round, my eyes too small, my clothes too tight; that was what I saw in those photos. The reasons for self-detestation may be different, but the underlying story remained unchanged – I still didn’t like who I saw.

It’s funny, but I found all these photos and videos again now as I was house-moving; and I wondered how I could have thought that girl in the photos was anything but beautiful.

It was fascinating when I was sitting there sifting through all my old photos – remembering how disgusted I felt looking at them over 10 years ago, and marveling at the total change in the way I see myself now in those same photos.

The photos didn’t change. The way I saw myself changed, and that changes everything.

It’s my reminder for me that I see the world as I am, I don’t see the world as it is. And if I wanted something to change in my world, I need look no further than to just change the way I see it. That was a simple and powerful affirmation on how I, and I alone, have the power to change anything in my life.

And for that, I am truly grateful.

So when you find yourself criticizing – take a pause, and be a little kinder. There is a difference between criticizing and recognizing, the former terminates possibilities and options; while the latter opens them up for you to make a different choice. This holds true whether it’s your relationship with you, with another, or with the world.

Be acutely aware on how you are seeing, because it is your quickest indication on how you are being.

Namaste. xoxo